Respect My Red: Peer Leadership Institute Agenda

Join us in at Kutztown University on April 17, 2017.  Register HERE.

Baltimore (2 hrs) Syracuse (3hrs) Philly (90min) NYC (2.5hrs) Harrisburg (1.25 hrs)

Respect My Red:  Peer Leadership Certification Institute
Learn the latest laws; train to engage; embolden your approach.  Go Red is intense and challenging.  Learn how to effect culture change with primary prevention and bystander intervention.  Obtain curricula and instructional skills for students from age 13 to 25–plus parents, faculty and other adults.  Learn how to create or invigorate a peer leadership and mentoring program. Understand how we can leverage social media and messaging.  Understand current quantitative and qualitative research supported strategies.

Learn what works well to engage each learner, to include a variety of religious values, diverse perspectives, gender identities, races, gender roles, and more.

Try it.  Practice your skills.
Do more than memorize.  Get great at delivery.  Figure out the best options for your personality type.  Know what your own strenghts and weaknesses are, and work toward improvement and fine tuning.

Leave with a Plan, the Tools and the Skills.
Pre-K to higher education. Private or public. Large or small. Religious or nondenominational. Urban or rural. Greek organizations. Military bases. Athletic programs.  Respect My Red has options for each.  Be ready to implement as soon as you get back home.

Essential Tools for Highly Effective Bystander and Educational Programs.

  • Grasp changes in laws and definitions over the last decade.
  • Train on a comprehensive up-stander program with ready-to-use curricula.
  • Understand definitions and manifestations of technology-related sexual assault, harassment, consent, incapacitation, alcohol-related issues, sexual exploitation, relationship abuse, stalking, dating violence and more.
  • Receive an analysis of your current presentation skills and knowledge with feedback on how to improve.  Repeated practice and skill building.
  • Utilize research supported methods to educate students, including integration into existing curricula and developmentally appropriate content for students of all ages, genders, religious affiliations, socio-economic backgrounds, and sexual orientations.

AGENDA for Respect My Red

An interactive training course on peer leadership, respectful relationships and sexual misconduct. 

 Knowledge Base   |    Attitude Lean-in   |   Behavior Change   |   Bystander Skills

What is Respect My Red?  An experiential program for student leaders and school professionals desiring to build skills, knowledge, and the ability to educate and impact their own communities on relationships, respect, sexual misconduct, and substance use.

Who should attend?  Student leaders from middle school to college. Leadership program advisors. Counselors.  Health educators.  Nurses. Deans of Students. Greek advisors.  Athletic leaders.  Parents. Ministers. Campus safety and community police officers. Youth group advisors. Wellness professionals.  Physical education teachers.  Coaches.  Camp counselors.

Is this curriculum right for my institution?  Respect My Red comes in versions appropriate for all developmental levels, from grade 2 to graduate school.  The material is customizable to mission match for any institution or organization. The common message is respectful relationships and healthy choices.  Specific morals, values and strategies for a variety of demographics are available, including the research behind what works best for a variety of learners.

We welcome YOU—ALL of you!  The institute provides opportunities to work with affinity groups:  public and private; religiously affiliated and nondenominational; commuter and residential; large and small; urban and rural; two-year and four-year; population served with respect to age, socio-economic background, race, religion, gender and more.

“Respect My Red is uniquely engaging, demanding, and beyond beneficial!”   -Senior from NYC independent school

 Diverse learning methods.  Situation room real-time exercise.  Participatory problem-solving.

What will you gain?  Train a team of students and advisors on the Respect My Red Curricula to build a customized KABB for your campus.  KABB = Knowledge, Attitude, Behavior and Bystander Skills.

Learn all about critical updates on legal mandates, research, standards, and best practices.  We address federal and state laws, confidentiality, men’s role in prevention, bystander intervention, sexual misconduct, athletic programs, international students, male victims, same sex sexual assault, responding to the accused, and more.

Institute Learning Outcomes

  1. Understand the fundamental elements of peer education and leadership programs. Learn the difference between peer education and peer counseling.
  2. Understand the importance of the KABB approach to wellness education: Knowledge, Attitude, Behavior and Bystander Skills.
  3. Learn strategies to reduce tolerance of rape myths, gender-based harassment, stalking, cyber-stalking, victim blaming, relationship abuse, sexual abuse, and other forms of sexual misconduct.
  4. Understand the laws and policies pertaining to sexual contact and sexual misconduct in all forms.
  5. Understand definitions and manifestations of technology-related sexual assault, harassment, consent, incapacitation, alcohol-related issues, sexual exploitation, relationship abuse, stalking, dating violence and more.
  6. Know the requirements for reporting incidents and 3rd party notifications with regard to student leaders and situations involving alcohol, drugs, sexting, stalking, sexual misconduct and harassment.
  7. Establish RESPECT as the fundamental expectation for all interpersonal interactions. Be emboldened to speak up as a proactive bystander that RESPECT is the standard and expectation within all relationships.
  8. Utilize research supported methods to educate students, including integration into existing curricula and developmentally appropriate content for students of all ages, genders, religious affiliations, socio-economic backgrounds, and sexual orientations.
  9. Analyze current skills and knowledge with feedback on how to improve. Repeated practice and skill building.
  10. Learn how to create a lasting leadership program including an awareness event or week.

Take-Away Resources and Materials

  1. Certificate of completion for RMR Intro Training upon passing the RMR Intro Training Test
  2. Respect My Red Curricula portal access
  3. Year-long use of online training program


Monday, April 17, 2017

12:00-1:00pm Check-in

1:00-1:15pm Opening Remarks and Institute Orientation

Katie Koestner, President of COS; Dr. Kenneth Hawkinson, President of Kutztown University

1:15-2:00pm: Interactive Case Study:  He Said-She Said

Listen as two students describe a night of partying and sexual interaction.   This case serves as the day’s foundation.

Grab a light snack and beverage.  Conference divides into two groups for Policy Institute and Respect Red Leadership Training.

2:10-3:00pm:  KNOWLEDGE Session:  Essential Definitions, Policies, and Laws

What is a healthy relationship?  What is abuse?  What is consent and what is not consent?  How do alcohol and other drugs affect relationships and our bodies?  Do you know what the difference is between incapacitated and drunk?  Or, what is coercion and what is persuasion?  Who is responsible for risk reduction?


  • Healthy Relationships vs. Intimate Partner Violence and Abuse
  • Sexual exploitation, harassment, stalking
  • Sexual assault and rape
  • Same-sex sexual assault
  • Technology-related sexual misconduct (sexting)
  • Criminal vs. civil vs. school definitions

 3:00-3:50pm:  ATTITUDE Session:  Where Do You Stand?

Are you biased?  Would you know it if you were?  How strongly do you feel about an issue and why?  How does this impact your ability to be an effective leader?  More specifically, what are common attitudes about relationships, respect and substance use?  Do you go along to get along?


  • Where do we obtain our attitudes? Media, parents, peers?
  • Rape myths and victim blaming
  • Bias based on gender, sexuality, religion, age, economic status, race, and more
  • What is normal vs. what is “over the line”?
  • How can we change the attitudes of others?
  • How do we shift the NORM and perception of the NORM?

4:00-4:50pm: BEHAVIOR Session:  It’s not what you say; it’s what you DO that counts.

How do we impact what people choose to do?  How do we set the standard for Respect?


  • Why do people say one thing and do another?
  • What are the real ways to bring about changes in behavior?
  • What works best for various ages, genders, religious backgrounds, and other demographic variables?
  • How can I create an environment that reduces the likelihood of disrespectful behaviors?
  • What does respectful treatment of others look like? What is the goal?
  • How can I be thoughtful about various beliefs and values regarding sexuality and relationships?

5:00-6:00pm:  BYSTANDER Session:  How BOLD are you?

Are you really comfortable taking a public stand on an issue?  What motivates you to fight the fire yourself vs. wait for the firetruck to arrive?  What’s the difference between being labeled a tattletale vs. a hero?   When should we get help in addressing concerning behavior?  Learn when to involve parents, legal counsel, and criminal authorities. Understand how bystanders are truly the norm-setters in any community.


  • Assess your philosophical approach:  Educational vs. Disciplinary.
  • What is a bystander vs. an up-stander?
  • What are approaches for students vs. adults?
  • When is it best to confront one on one vs. in a group?
  • How should you approach an alleged victim vs. alleged perpetrator?
  • Cultural sensitivity and international student issues
  • Developmental models for all ages

6:00-7:00pm:  Dinner with New Friends

7:00-8:00pm:  Keynote:  “No-Yes:  The Empowering Story of Katie Koestner”

Katie Koestner was on the cover of TIME Magazine as the first woman in history to publicly speak out about being a victim of date rape. She has shared her personal story with over 5 million students. She addresses sexual assault, respect, consent, healthy decision-making, and alcohol, while inspiring students to become active bystanders in your community. To both educate and inspire at the same time can be a challenge, but this is exactly what Katie accomplishes with her program.  Katie shares her story as she weaves in key information about sexual assault and stories from survivors and upstanders as she has traveled the country. Katie shares a message of courage through her personal story that goes well beyond the hour after her program.  Her audiences remember her words, her strength and her conviction.  They incorporate her examples into their next steps in life.

8:00-9:00pm:  Workshop Choice

How to Help a Survivor:  From Hurt to Healing

What should you say or do to help someone who confides in you about their victimization?  What is Post Traumatic Stress Disorder?  What have hundreds of survivors said that helped them the most?

Activism for Any Age and Any Stage

What can you do to foment change within your community?  What are options and success stories.  Learn about how social justice works and doesn’t work depending on the strategy and deployment.  This workshop is for those who seek to make things better at any age.